Looking for the small joys is so important.
A warm, delicious meal. A long drive. A good book. A scented candle.
Whatever it might be for you, treat yourself to the small joys today.
Remembering isn't the same as holding a grudge. We can remember without ill will after letting go of the hurt and moving forward with the insight we gained.
You may be a person with empathy, but don't expect others to empathize you, Coz they wont, and you end up getting hurt.
So its very important to empathize others and also be a tough nut when it comes to your own emotions.