Masochism

[uvula]

I dont get it.
I wud like to think that I am a rly good sub. like superrrrr submissive.
But...I hit a wall when it comes to masochism. I genuinely from the bottom of my heart hate it. I cannot fathom for a sec, how it cud pleasure anyone either. but then I remember, other ppl out there wud be confused if I told them degradation turns me on.
point is...I hate pain and I hesitate every time a task involves anything remotely painful. my question is..."should i do it anyways?". like...does being truly submissive mean I have to indulge in my dom's kinks? or am I allowed to have preferences. i get that I am allowed to say NO. obviously.
But if I truly wanted to be a sub...the kind that doesn't think...does that mean I have to grit my teeth and go along with whatever he says.

Does being submissive mean doing whatever my dom wants me to do regardless of whether I like it or not?
Even if the answer is yes, just tell me No.

 

[Fury627]

I dont get it.
I wud like to think that I am a rly good sub. like superrrrr submissive.
But...I hit a wall when it comes to masochism. I genuinely from the bottom of my heart hate it. I cannot fathom for a sec, how it cud pleasure anyone either. but then I remember, other ppl out there wud be confused if I told them degradation turns me on.
point is...I hate pain and I hesitate every time a task involves anything remotely painful. my question is..."should i do it anyways?". like...does being truly submissive mean I have to indulge in my dom's kinks? or am I allowed to have preferences. i get that I am allowed to say NO. obviously.
But if I truly wanted to be a sub...the kind that doesn't think...does that mean I have to grit my teeth and go along with whatever he says.

Does being submissive mean doing whatever my dom wants me to do regardless of whether I like it or not?
Even if the answer is yes, just tell me No.

I mean, if you're not getting any pleasure from it, then why would you do it? Both Dom and Sub should know each other's kinks and limits, and you can try new things once in a while. If you like it, tell him, and if you don't, tell him that too, or You can just be a mindless cunt walking around begging your dom for everything. Your choice

 

[uvula]

The mindless part is what I am trying to be. but for SOME reason I have too much dignity.

 

[Fury627]

The mindless part is what I am trying to be. but for SOME reason I have too much dignity.

Maybe you're going too fast. Keep it at your pace. Start slowly, then as time goes on, the more trust you gain for your dom and the better the bond you guys have, it will eventually lead to more stuff you want to do for him without caring about your dignity.
Or just drop the plan and keep the dignity, No need to compromise.

 

[uvula]

I dont have an actual dom anyways( long term doms get clingy)
keeping my dignity doesn't sound as appealing as it did a year ago so ig it's too late for that.

 

[Gorgeous_Aura]

The mindless part is what I am trying to be. but for SOME reason I have too much dignity.

A dom is powerful only because u choose him to give that kida power on you. Say No If u want so. If you are not into Pain, find a Dom who is not a sadist

 

[Fury627]

I dont have an actual dom anyways( long term doms get clingy)
keeping my dignity doesn't sound as appealing as it did a year ago so ig it's too late for that.

Find a dom who can give you tasks that doesn't involve pain.

Or just make a room and let everyone join and you can fulfill your humiliation and degradation kink with a lot of members, but I also think it's such bad advice. Keep your dignity above; if your mind says, "Don't do it," then don't do it.

 

[uvula]

Or just make a room and let everyone join and you can fulfill your humiliation and degradation kink with a lot of members

That sent Literal chills down my spine. dont ever say that again.

Ik it's ironic, cuz i am no angel. but doing it as an entire grp felt soooo wrong.

 

[Fury627]

That sent Literal chills down my spine. dont ever say that again.

Ik it's ironic, cuz i am no angel. but doing it as an entire grp felt soooo wrong.

Knew it, Go with option one now.